I have been thinking of the whole concept of marriage.
Now, if you know me personally (outside the blog world) you would be surprised!
I have been living in sin for over seven years now. Happily. I am non religious, spiritual, but not religious. So I cant say that I actually feel like I live in sin. Sinfully divine, maybe! But not morally unrighteous.
All day today I have been contemplating the whole concept of marriage.
****Mom: don't have a heart attack, I said I was thinking about the concept of marriage, not considering it as a life path for myself. Breath now! ****
I guess, more specifically, I was thinking about what the whole marriage, husband, wife, kit and caboodle represent in society. Last night I discovered that a couple I know, both in their early forties with two daughters, 7 and 9, are not in fact married as we naturally assumed they were. They are the quint essential Canadian family in all other respects. I was surprised, and then curious as to why not. They have been together for over 15 years. They are raising a family. What difference would it make? Wouldn't it be easier to be married?
Which led me to my next train of thought.
My DB. DB stands for Darling Boyfriend. Boyfriend.
I hate when I have to introduce, refer to, or explain, my boyfriend.
What does that mean exactly? Boyfriend. Have we been dating for a few weeks? A year maybe? Maybe we are not even dating! Maybe he is just a boy who is a friend. Maybe we live together, maybe not. Maybe...
I don't dare say partner, especially when he is not there. That has a whole different connotation.
Most of the time I simply say, "my better half" (though DB insists that he is not necessarily the better half of our equation.)
It drives me insane. But the convenience of applying the term husband in order for others to understand the depth and breadth of my relationship it is not a reason to get married. Right? Right.
But here is where I get defensive. I am not married. My DB is not my husband. But to suggest that because he is not my husband, our relationship is something less than what some other random married couple has drive me insane....rrrr.....
DB is infinitely more to me than any term, any name could represent. He is my heart, my love, the centre of my universe.
So I ask you,
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other word would smell as sweet."